Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Blog Tour: The V-Word by Amber Keyser




Publisher: Beyond Words
Publication Date: February 2nd, 2016

Summary (from Goodreads):

HAVING SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME IS A BIG UNKNOWN. LOTS OF PEOPLE WILL TELL YOU WHAT TO DO, BUT IS ANYONE TELLING YOU WHAT IT’S REALLY LIKE?

The V-Word pulls back the sheets on sex. Queer and straight. Relished and regretted. Funny and exhilarating. The seventeen women in this book (including Christa Desir, Justina Ireland, Sara Ryan, Carrie Mesrobian, Erica Lorraine Scheidt, and Jamia Wilson) write about first-time sex—hot, meaningful, cringe-worthy, gross, forgettable, magnificent, empowering, and transformative.

Whether you’re diving in or whether you’re waiting, we hope these stories will help you chart your own course.

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The V-Word is a book all about having sex for the first time. Which can be a scary thing! There are so many rumors floating around about what it's like and a lot of them are totally not true.

So in my post today, I'm going to compile a short list of first time sex myths and reasons why they're false and my own two cents on the subject!

1. Your first time will be painful.

FALSE

First of all, everyone is different, what one person may find painful, another may not. That being said, sex should not cause you that much pain. It will probably be uncomfortable the first time, but it shouldn't be unbearable. There are a few things that can cause sex to be painful, which are easy to fix! Lack of lubrication, not being turned on enough, your partner being too rough, a need for a different position. Your own fear of it hurting can also cause it to be more painful because you will be more tensed up. Just relax!

2. Sex causes the cherry to pop which is why there is bleeding.

FALSE

Have you ever heard the expression about popping your cherry? That is where the myth of excessive bleeding comes from, but contrary to popular belief, there is nothing to pop. The hymen (or the "cherry") is not something solid that covers the vaginal opening, it is a tissue that stretches across just part of the opening. By the time you are thinking about having sex for the first time, a lot of it should have worn mostly away by normal daily activities, washing, athletics, walking, etc. If your partner is too rough, it can tear a bit and that is where blood could come from! Bleeding can also come from tense muscles, inadequate lubrication, rushed entry, and vaginal abrasions.

If you're worried about your hymen getting in the way, there are things you can do about that! You can use your fingers to stretch it out so it won't be a problem when you get down to it!

Here is a good video on the hymen!



3. You can't get pregnant the first time you have sex.

FALSE

If you are having unprotected sex, you can get pregnant whether its the first or 50th time you're having sex! It's even possible for you to get pregnant before you've gotten your period! Pregnancy is related to ovulation and it is possible to ovulate before beginning to menstruate.

My two cents:

It was a lot harder to find myths than I thought it would be. I mean, there are a lot of articles out there, but all of them seem to have the same few things listed in them. I think that pain and bleeding are probably the most common ones that people worry about going into their first time. That was what I worried about the most! And I even learned a thing or two while doing this post! 

I learned a lot about the hymen! While it totally would make sense and seem obvious that it's not something that just covers the opening, I guess my default though process was that it was. Just because of the myth of popping your cherry. I never questioned that, but now I am that much wiser.

Also I didn't know that get pregnant before you've gotten your period, but I saw that on several official looking websites. That's news to me.

About the Author


Amber J. Keyser is former ballerina and evolutionary biologist who writes both fiction and nonfiction for tweens and teens. Her young adult novel THE WAY BACK FROM BROKEN (Carolrhoda Lab, 2015) is a heart-wrenching story of loss and survival. THE V-WORD (Beyond Words, 2016) is an anthology of personal essays by women about first time sexual experiences. 

Her other books include the nonfiction title SNEAKER CENTURY: A HISTORY OF ATHLETIC SHOES (Twenty-First Century Books, 2015); a picture book, AN ALGONQUIN HEART SONG: PADDLE MY OWN CANOE (FOAP, 2007); two graphic novels about science, THE BASICS OF CELL LIFE WITH MAX AXIOM (Capstone Press, 2010) and DECODING GENES WITH MAX AXIOM (Capstone Press, 2010) as well as a photo-illustrated nonfiction title, ANATOMY OF A PANDEMIC (Capstone Press, 2011). She is the co-author with Kiersi Burkhart of the middle grade series QUARTZ CREEK RANCH (Darby Creek, 2016). More info at www.amberjkeyser.com and on Twitter at @amberjkeyser.

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